Crying is their only means of survival, so it is that she communicates her suffering and is likely to be adequately cared for. And if the whole house waking up to your cry? And if the crying affect the neighbors? The baby has no neuropsychological condition to worry about these issues. What matters is the suffering cease.
As it grows, the child's situation changes, when she pulls hard on the mother's hair, that expresses pain, removes the child's hand and tells him that "can not pull the hair of the mother."
This applies to similar situations is when you try to pull a toy from the hand of fellow daycare or the dog nudges. It will take a while, but even in steps of ant, that child will eventually learn that she is able to act for or harmful to herself or others.
For this to happen, two things are essential: it will have to have a vision of himself as someone different, unique, separate, but linked to the rest of the world (since their behavior has an effect on the world) and realize that the other is capable of feeling, thinking, willing, things absolutely different from what she thinks, feels or wants. This is the basis for learning the art of living in society: how to negotiate what I want when it falls on a collision course with the needs and viewpoint of the other?
The child wants his lap just in time that the mother needs to work out racing. Or want to see more TV, and when dinner will be served. The list of such situations that are part of the life of a child seems to have no end.
Educating a child is, in part, to teach him to tolerate some degree of frustration. It also means teaching her to put into perspective of the speaker, understand the point of view of someone else:
"If you ruin your toy friend, he will be sad and will no longer lend you his stuff"
"Now Dad is in the car, come here go home, he can not answer the phone"
"Look, the baby is crying, what does he need?"
Lady and chess board games that are, to win the match, depend mostly on the ability to predict the opponent's point of view, their likely moves, so as to have to block them. Hide and Seek is another game that also helps in this process, the child must be placed in a cache that is effectively inaccessible to the eye and wit of "enemies."
When a child to watch cartoons, is moved with the young orphaned Lion King or Bambi, she seems to be the way to acquire the ability to apply in place of another person and feel similar emotions. This is the acquisition of the capacity to empathize with the joy or suffering of others, a very important skill in society. Who is able to empathize less likely to injure the other, to take advantage of any weakness of someone to get a benefit of the situation. The popular saying "Do not do to others what you do not want done to you" translates well into this issue.
Compassion is the sister of empathy, it is a form of action geared to the common good, guided by values ??of love of neighbor. The child who is taught to care for their toys, I enjoyed them at will (ad nauseam them or get too big for that activity) can also be encouraged to give this toy to anyone who does not have resources.
Sounds silly, but also benefits a child when he learns to respect the hard work of garbage collectors, pushing heavy carts in large urban centers in search of metal and paper. Find that there are still people who need pick up fruits and vegetables at the time of chow semiamassados ??fairs to have to eat is a necessary and painful lesson for a kid in this world of inequalities. There is much to be learned about the pain of who we are near or far. Being able to act compassionately, verbally or physically, for the sake of someone is a skill we can teach children, and examples are one of the best ways to do this. Let's put our hands dirty?
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