We live in an era where love marriages are fast and the end of the night to day. This has a natural fear to be alone and helpless.
So, paradoxically often cling to our love as if it were "eternal" and unique, we are capable of any action not to be alone.
This often confuse love with custom.
And what are morals?
They represent a whole routine of life with another, tours, day after day of waking and sleeping together, knowing that he or she will hit 19 hours, fighting, making love, etc..
The routine of custom becomes so familiar that we start to need it, even when we are unhappy. I realize in many patients is still confusion between loving and being "still a loving life routine."
After a relationship ends, these people claim they have no more day by day as well known, feel the bitter loneliness of living with the need to start over. After all, had a life that seemed so structured, but that collapsed.
But how to know if we're missing someone we love or who still we're used to that person? This response comes from your inner knowing.
Just be honest with yourself and think, if the context changed with this other person, if you still have the feeling of love.
If you lived in town and had a routine run ... but now everything has changed and you would live with him on the beach in a more peaceful ...
You love the one that you missed or lost?
This deep reflection leads us to discover truths about us that are often hidden.
Some people are surprised and confide that after the end of a relationship life got better. The freedom gave way to the new: take courses, go out with friends, get ready ... more
In this case, the room was depriving that person to be herself. Often we enter into a lifestyle and we believe that we need to be stuck with it for the rest of our lives.
I believe that love is so often confused with custom and we should do this inner work several times in detecting what is pleasing or not in our routine in order to be happier.
Freedom can be good, as well as family life, but we must be ever vigilant about our emotions and feelings.
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