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Most of us remember the first best friend and the importance it has had on our lives. There is no sense in English, best friend's best man.

The first relationship that child establishes relationships are called endogamous, that is, relationships within the family, relations with relatives. Thus, interactions, child-parent, brother, brothers, grandparents, grandson, nephew, uncle, cousin, cousins ??are the interpersonal relationships in early life. Important lessons learned are derived from them.


In the first year of life, in general, the baby is the center of interest of the house and the recipient of attention from family members. From the second year, the child begins to realize that the other person to whom it relates, is a being with thoughts, needs and desires. She earns as a consequence the possibility of perceiving what is happening with the other, the ability to feel what others feel, that is, develop the capacity for empathy.

Gradually the child learns, with the help of who governs it, to make emotional exchanges. All this is experienced and lived in the family.

Upon entering kindergarten, the child begins to socialize with classmates. But, it also has the opportunity to play with them in a cooperative way, because it admits sharing his toys. On the contrary, to defend their properties, uses many resources, such as slapping, shoving, biting and hair pulling. But soon after, begins to enjoy playing together and have fun with the company of colleagues. There comes a time in which the colleague becomes, in fact, the friend, who is the favorite to play, and invited to go home and go to his house.

This is how the precursor stages of the emergence of the category "best friend". Best friend or best friend is a choice of a gender identity. Rarely does the first best friend has a different sex. Homoafetivas is a relationship that tends to linger, sometimes for many years, especially if the children share the same school environment.


The best friend is the "chosen brother." With the advantage of not sharing the same parents, therefore, the royal brothers to share the parents and jealous. The best friend is a bridge to a world of relationships exogamous, that is, relationships outside the family to which it belongs.

Accompanied by best friend, the child feels safe to propose new experiences. This friend is fellow adventurer, who gives strength and security to dare, test limits, but who can also share blame.

The best friend is an absolutely individual child's achievement. Parents should not become very good friends of the parents of the child's best friend, which often, unfortunately, tends to happen. This, when it occurs, brings the loss of the relationship exogamous, that is the relationship with an outsider, someone independent of other family relationships, so fundamental to the development of the child's capacity for autonomy.

It is clear that parents and families need to know with whom their children are related, but they must respect the fact that the same best friend and the bond with his parents, was won by his son and must remain so.

Best Friend featuring a degree of friendship, where knowledge, mutual trust, loyalty and selflessness are needed. Disagreements and disruptions, however, tend to happen and cause much pain at all ages. The sense of betrayal is very strong. Children, however, usually use a very healthy defense against such a situation: they have the first best friend, second best friend third best friend ... and it is publicly verbalized.